Life moves fast today, in every way. People lead hectic lives, with a lot going on and sometimes it’s hard to keep up with all the responsibilities and expectations.

If you find yourself going through the same routine day after day, never remembering what you did the day before, having nothing to look forward to, living your life – but never enjoying it or anything in it very much…you are probably living your life and the relationships in it on autopilot.

The really devastating part about living life on autopilot (or running in a hamster wheel), especially when it comes to your relationships, is that you don’t even know that you’re doing it half the time. You’re just living your life, wishing for more, but not really knowing if there is more or how to get it.

While many people live out their entire lives on autopilot (which is really sad), the way to have truly rewarding and successful lives & relationships is to be totally aware and adaptable when it comes to life.

So, how do you achieve that?

1. Stop and smell the roses (literally:). Take time to notice all the little things around you, especially those that you always use to look at when you were 6!

2. Think about your short and long-term lifestyle goals. Do you still have those? And if so – have you forgotten them? Update and re-write that list and start working on accomplishing your next short-term goal.

3. Remember your relationship? When was the last time you did something new with your partner? When was the last time you even wanted to? Start thinking about your relationship and stop just “being in it”.

Finally, if you discover that you are on autopilot there’s a reason why. Your life is out of balance. It’s either too stressful, too complicated, too boring, or you have surrendered your life to the “routine”, without realising that you have a choice.

Take one day this week and really think about your life, your relationships, your health, your career, your hobbies.

Do you appreciate the people in your life and the material things you already have?

How can you shake things up? Make life more interesting and rewarding for yourself?

How can you get back in balance and in love with your life again?